There are 2 types of people in this world. The Martyrs and the Victims.
The Martyrs are those crazy ones who .... who make a 3 hour drive to work on a snowy day, .... who come to work when they have the sniffles, .... who won't complaint and stay when there's a blizzard outside. They are the work-horses, the people you can count on, the ones I appreciate the most at work.
Then there are the Victims. These are the ones who will call in sick when it's dusting outside, .... when they have a heavy period, .... when they have a slight cold. They request to go home when they feel like they've got a cold coming one. They are the first ones out the door each evening and the last to arrive. They get by doing as little as possible in hopes that no one catches them.
I had a Victim who once worked for me. She once asked me if she could work a 4 hour day (and still be paid for a full 7 hour day) in the Winter time? She wanted to wait for the ice to thaw before she came to work for fear of slipping and falling. When I told her that I expected her to start when everyone did, she accused me of wanting her to break her neck! No where in the conversation did I once say, "Hmmm... I would like you to break your neck." Trust me, I would have liked to, but I refrained.
All of our work places have people like that. In fact, we have Martyrs and Victims in all aspects of our lives... yes, even in our own families.
My mom, although I love her to death, is a Victim. Every little sniffle is a life-threatening disease and every pain means that she needs to get surgery. She drives me nuts because I, on the other hand, am a Martyr. I am a sickening Martyr. I can't help it. Some days, it drive me nuts. Hell! It drives my husband nuts for every so often, I will hear him say...."Just give up the Cross already please! for someone else needs the Wood".
But deep down inside, I'm really no different than the Victim. Trust me! I want to stay home on those snowy days. I don't want to drive on the highway to go to work. I want to curl up in bed when I have a cold. I want to be the first to go home when it starts to snow. I want to go home when I've got a headache. I don't want to go to work when I have my period. I don't want! I don't want! I don't want!
BUT I DO WHATEVER IS EXPECTED OF ME ANYWAY!!!
BECAUSE I BELIEVE THAT THERE ARE THINGS THAT NEED TO BE DONE AND I'VE GOT RESPONSIBILITIES AND THERE ARE PEOPLE OUT THERE WHO ARE COUNTING ON ME... AND IF I DON'T DELIVER WHAT I AM SUPPOSED TO DELIVER THEN, I WOULD ULTIMATELY BE LETTING THESE PEOPLE DOWN!
In short, I feel all the things that the Victims feel. So, why is it that the Victims are okay with calling in sick when it's snowing out? When they've got a very slight cold? When they've got their period? When it's icy outside? When... When... When....?????
Why do they feel like they're entitled to more?
It's not like the Martyrs are healthier than the Victims but why is it that Victims take WAY MORE sick days than Martyrs?
HOW IN THE WORLD DO YOU TELL A VICTIM TO QUIT BEING A VICTIM??????
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